How to Say Yes (When You Really Want To, But Don’t Know If You Should)

Even if a Big Decision feels like an Absolute Yes, it can be hard to say Yes, Absolutely.

Especially if the Big Decision is a true calling, a Great Truth wanting to speak through you. Then, it hardly feels like a choice at all – instead it feels like an imperative push from the soul. (And who wants to say no to that?)

Saying an Absolute Yes to the soul is not as easy as it sounds. Ask anyone who has made a risky choice—whether it’s getting married or becoming an entrepreneur or going to seminary or  traveling to a distant continent to study hallucinogenic snails—and they’ll either tell you: A) “It was a hell of a hard decision,” or B) “I had to do it—it was like I had no choice in the matter.”

(Or, if they’re more confident with adventure, they might say: C) “It’s fun!” But I’m not speaking to these folks here. If you are one of these folks, please leave a comment about it so we can all benefit from your confidence mojo!)

Decisions, Decisions

The most life-changing choices are the ones we embrace with a solid Yes, Absolutely. But some Yeses are harrowing, nerve-wracking choices, even when we know in our hearts that they are absolutely the right ones to make.

These are the decisions that, when taken at the flood of opportunity and inspiration, move us down a whole new path, one that’s unfamiliar, unmapped, maybe with a few “There Be Dragons” scattered across the landscape.

Decisions like:

• Going back to school
• Changing careers
• Starting a new business
• Accepting a spiritual calling

And oh, the magic we make (and the inner chaos we face) when all of these are blended into one.

I’ve known many people who have done all four of those life-changers nearly at once. Going back to school to train for a career change that will require them to start a business in alignment with their spiritual calling.

Well, sheesh if that isn’t a lot of transition all at once. But it’s one that so many of us face when we decide to follow our hearts – or are kicked out of our comfort zones through job loss, business shifts, empty nests, or other life transitions.

Intuition: What If It’s Slow as Ketchup in an Old Glass Bottle?

Since this is Intuitopia and I generally focus on engaging with life through our intuitive senses, I’d like to say, “Trust your intuition” and be done with it. But it’s not so simple.

The Big Decisions often leave our intuition feeling as slow as can be. (Remember those old ketchup commercials where people waited and waited for the ketchup to flow? That slow. Or slower.)

In times like these, calling on someone else’s intuition can be very helpful. I can use my intuition to give you some insight into yours. I can journey for you, or use divination to coach you toward clarity.

But (not to belittle this, because it’s truly powerful to engage with another in seeking guidance) there’s something even more dramatic that you can do to reach your Yes.

Give In

Just give in.

You don’t have to do anything. You don’t have to make any choices that affect your everyday world.

All that you have to do is give in to the inner impulse, let go of the struggle, and say Yes.

The Yes doesn’t have to be followed by action right away. It may never be followed by action—because things may shift where you don’t need to take any actions at all in order to fulfill your quest.

The Yes is action enough for now.

I have strengthened my Yes, Absolutely through ceremony, through sharing with my community, through the power of coaching and healing, through my speech patterns and my patterns of prayer.

And things have come clear that before were unclear. Waters have parted that before submerged my path. Help arrived—emails from people with just the right information, profitable referrals from satisfied clients—where before it had seemed I was in a desert with no help to be found.

I’m talking about spiritual surrender here. It’s not an easy topic. It’s one of those goals you could devote your whole life to.

Saying Yes, Absolutely to the promptings of your soul truly makes the difference. The “how” doesn’t matter. The “next step” doesn’t matter.

All that matters, in this tender breathing moment, is your Yes.

Say it now.
 
 

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Red photo credit: erix!